r/MadeMeSmile • u/astral12 • Jul 29 '24

Little girl performs by herself Good Vibes

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u/The_Last_Zombie Jul 29 '24

It's very common for kids to freeze on stage at this early age. So much so, it's one of the main reasons I like to go to my nieces school plays, it's very funny, afterwards the kids are alright, they don't even care

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

I was the flower girl for my aunts wedding and I was so hyped. Loved my dress, killed it at rehearsal, froze up and cried in the middle of the aisle just like this boy.

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u/anivaries Jul 29 '24

You forgot to mention you were 25 then

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u/Successful_Dot2813 Jul 29 '24

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u/Drew_coldbeer Jul 29 '24

I was a flower boy when I was about 4. I was supposed to lead the bride and throw flower petals out of a little top hat, but I tripped and fell down some stairs and there was just little piles on a few of the steps. My little ass frantically trying to scoop the petals back into the hat until the bride told me I did a good job and letā€™s just keep walking like we did before

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u/Primary-Lion-6088 Jul 29 '24

My flower girl at my first wedding forgot to scatter any petals while she was walking down the aisle. Then she realized she forgot so apparently during the ceremony she was just surreptitiously reaching into her basket and dropping them all around her, lol. I was too busy getting married to notice that, as she was standing behind me, but one of my guests told me later.

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u/Level_Alps_9294 Jul 29 '24

I went to a wedding last year and the poor flower girl got overwhelmed and started crying as soon as she started down the aisle, but she kept truckin, throwing flowers and doing a little rehearsed dance walk, all while sobbing. It was adorable and kinda funny but I felt so bad for her

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u/Teazone Jul 29 '24

Haha I can only talk for myself but that would have been a core memory for the rest of my life, no way I'd be alright afterwards or twenty years after.

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u/Masseyrati80 Jul 29 '24

Same here. Lots of joking going on here due to it being Reddit, but for some kids, a situation like this can cause a super intense feeling of shame, of being the outsider, being flawed, and on top of that nobody caring about your anguish, even laughing at it, or, rather, you on a very deep level.

I recently read a book on introversion and shyness, and based on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, the author highlighted how shy kids benefit massively from being allowed to approach new situations and social setups at their own pace. It's natural for them to observe others to get the vibe of the group and situation before joining in*. Forcing them to the middle of some weird gala, then leaving them to cope on their own really can be a damaging experience.

*interestingly enough, later on it's the shy kids who are not only skilled at staying out of conflicts, but sometimes end up as mediators as they can often see things from more than one perspective

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u/oujikara Jul 29 '24

What book was this if you don't mind sharing? You got me interested

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u/Masseyrati80 Jul 29 '24

Sorry to say it hasn't been translated to English. It's name is Ujot ja introvertit, the text is in Finnish, and the author is called Liisa Keltikangas-JƤrvinen.

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u/oujikara Jul 29 '24

Aw well thanks anyway!

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u/mo_downtown Jul 29 '24

Quiet by Susan Cain has some of the same thoughts and is a great book on introversion

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u/Masseyrati80 Jul 29 '24

As I mentioned in another answer, it hasn't been translated to English, unfortunately enough.

But the book is called Ujot ja introvertit, with the author being Liisa Keltikangas-JƤrvinen, and the text is in Finnish.

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u/bennitori Jul 29 '24

That was what I was thinking about the poor boy. Depending on how the adults handle the situation afterwards, this will be either the deep root for a ton of anxiety/shame to come or the spark that encourages to overcome all odds going forward. But that will depend entirely on how the adults handle it.

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u/FreshGeoduck296 Jul 29 '24

As someone who was forced to do stupid dances in school at a young age, I still remember and despise these moments over 20 years later.

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u/CarolFukinBaskin Jul 29 '24

Oh relax it's not a big deal

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u/Teazone Jul 29 '24

I can vividly remember a lot of "no big deals" of my childhood that have for some reason affected me more than an adult in that situation may think.

He may forget it easily, he may not.

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u/lilacnyangi Jul 29 '24

Something like this happened to me in Asian preschool. My mom has pictures of me bawling my eyes out and eventually rolling around on the floor, wailing about not wanting to perform... Turned out fine, don't remember a thing, did a children's ballet thing a year later without problems. I also did some auditions for theatre and performed on my own on multiple large stages growing up. He's fine, guys.

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u/s8018572 Jul 29 '24

Nah I hate stage after this kind of thing happen to me when I'm 7 yrs old.

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u/Nroke1 Jul 30 '24

afterwards the kids are alright, they don't even care

Absolutely not, this is the kind of thing that can destroy a child's self-confidence with strangers for years. This is traumatic for a child, they'll likely recover before adulthood, but this memory will never really go away.

IME at least.

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u/viciadoemsono Jul 29 '24

do you have a source to prove this is very common? Some will definitely be alright afterwards but some probably have some underlying issues going on and things like that could make it worse. I already seen both situations happening.

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u/bulletprooftampon Jul 29 '24

They donā€™t need to provide you with sources lol. How about you Google for sources and post the results here?

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u/viciadoemsono Jul 29 '24

who are "they" you are talking about? and why should i google for sources of someone else's claims? Are you having a stroke or something?

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u/Jolly_Recording_4381 Jul 29 '24

Why should I have to provide sources for everything I say.

If you don't believe me look it up and dispute me.

This I have to do the work for other people is ridiculous.

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u/viciadoemsono Jul 29 '24

lol nice, using different accounts to argue with someone.

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u/bulletprooftampon Jul 29 '24

Who else would ā€œtheyā€ would be in this context? Probably the person you commented under dumb ass. Someone told a story about them going to their nieceā€™s play and you asked for a source. Look it up yourself lazy