r/AmIOverreacting • u/User90453533 • Aug 18 '24

AIO? My boyfriend hasn't come home since Friday, it's now Sunday. ❤️‍🩹 relationship

My (24F) boyfriend (27M) left for a festival around 12:00 on Friday, he told me he loved me and that he'd see me that night since he had to work on Saturday and then he'd go back to the festival on Sunday morning. I told him to have fun, be safe and that I'd see him that night.

I went to work like normal and didn't hear anything from him all day (which didn't bother me since he's at a festival, probably had bad service and didn't want to spoil his fun by being on his phone). I got home after work around 00:00 and still hadn't heard anything. I was hungry and decided to have some food delivered so I figured I'd call him and ask if he wanted something for when he got home. It went straight to voicemail twice. I decided to check his location to see if maybe he was still stuck in the parking lot and therefore would have horrible service as well, which was the case. Didn't think much more off it, ordered my food, ate, and went to bed. Decided to check his location once more and saw the bus was just pulling out of the parking area and on the road.

When I woke up, he wasn't next to me. I immediately checked my phone but didn't have any missed messages or calls. This started to slightly worry me, so I looked at his location again and it showed him in a hotel somewhere. I figured he must have missed the last train home and that I'd see him soon. I went on about my day, deep cleaning the house, doing some laundry, etc, and didn't think about it anymore. Then around 16:00 I received a call from his boss asking if I knew where he was since he didn't show up for his shift at 15:00 and they couldn't reach him. I hadn't even noticed the time.

I called, facetimed, texted and messaged him but got no response. Then around 17:00 I got one lousy message that he had hurt his ankle and lost his wallet. I asked what happened, if he was okay, why he didn't come home, why he didn't let me know, he was going to a hotel, why he was ignoring his boss and I, when he was coming home and who he was with (none of our friends went to the festival, he went alone). It's now Sunday and he still hasn't responded nor come home. He turned his location settings off yesterday around the same time he sent that text to me.

I have this really bad feeling like something is off. This is very out of character for him. We've been together for 6 years and he's never done anything remotely like this. I'm worried, I'm angry, and I feel like he's hiding something. I know he didn't plan on going to a hotel, he didn't bring a change of clothes or packed a bag. He just went for a day, planning to come back that night. AIO for having this bad feeling like something is very wrong?

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u/SparrowLikeBird Aug 18 '24

100% file a missing person's report.

Also - compare the way he texted you to previous texts. My paranoid Crime Junkie Podcast fan self is saying someone else has his phone, and not him.

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u/CeruleanFruitSnax Aug 18 '24

The police saying they have to wait until Tuesday is bullshit! If there is good reason to suspect foul play (like him getting mugged or robbed), danger to the missing person (having done drugs perhaps and had a bad reaction?), and the person has been out of contact for longer than they said they were going to be, then a missing person report should be generated. Cops will say it's a 72 hour wait time but iirc, there is no binding rule that makes that the only way they can do things. Be a Karen, ask for the supervisor of the precinct. Something funky is going on and them giving the excuse of it hasn't been long enough is straight up wrong.

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u/SparrowLikeBird Aug 19 '24

What Cerulean said - the police are NOT required to wait to take reports and launch investigations AND the sooner they start the better chance they have to find him alive. It's a lie they tell to shut you up and get out of doing their job.

Go to social media with it too, post his face everywehre you can, put up lost flyers even, call everyone and get a phone tree going.

He is missing. He might be kidnapped, wounded, or dead. (or cheating but that is less likely and less important). Contact local news agencies and talk about how the police are refusing to help. If you are POC bring that up as a possible reason for them refusing. Is it? not likely. But itll get the news to show up and increase the chance he gets found.

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u/3moatruth Aug 19 '24

Exactly. What would Ashley and Brit say in this scenario?