r/MadeMeSmile • u/astral12 • Jul 29 '24

Little girl performs by herself Good Vibes

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u/vlncxntf9 Jul 29 '24

just from a stand point of teaching someone to be on stage - the show must go on. if you stop everything for a crying kid to take him off the stage just because he got scared and started crying he's never gonna overcome it.

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u/fugue-mind Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24

He only looks about 4. He's not at an age where this will teach him anything about "overcoming". More likely he will just have permanent stage fright moving forward, will never want to perform again, and just have a vague memory of terror on a stage from his youth lol

In general I agree with you, it's just not a lesson this kid is remotely equipped to learn from

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u/Phunwithscissors Jul 29 '24

How many memories do you have from 4 y/o?

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u/fugue-mind Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24

Personally, I have many -- mainly just scary, humiliating and/or traumatic ones. But that doesn't matter because explicit memories are not required to internalize, learn, and become conditioned by your early life experiences.

Most of kids future personalities are developed before 5-6 years old when it comes to traits like anxiety and fearfulness. This is the time period where he learns whether the world is a safe place, whether people around him can be trusted, etc. This is a critical time for him and these adults are failing him in this moment.